When Gaz decided he wanted to make some drastic changes in his life, he was thinking more about his career or study and definitely not baby. But that is exactly what happened to this young man. In the same week he chucked in his job to go back to university he also found out that he was an expecting father.
I was NOT expecting that!
To say that Gaz and his partner were surprised by their positive pregnancy test would be a monumental understatement.
“I had just quit my job and was starting university in a couple of weeks time when we took the test,” he said.
“The moment the pregnancy test came up positive I instinctively knew it to be true and from that moment on I knew life would never be the same again.
“In the initial moments after my partner told me the test was positive I had a thousand things going through my head.
“My first instinct was to think about the logistics of an abortion as my partner and I hadn’t been together very long at the time and I had just quit my job.
“But the longer I stood there in paralysed shock the more appealing the thought of a baby became.
“My partner and I stayed up and talked through the night about what we should do but there was never really any doubt that we were going to keep the baby.
A little support goes a long way
“But I was concerned about what people would think of us because of our circumstances and I was really worried that I would have to get my old job back and give up the opportunity of going to university.
“I guess you could say I was pleasantly surprised when I found my family was really supportive.
“They told me to stick with Uni and get it done while the baby is still little as they only get more expensive as they get older.
“I was so happy that I had the support behind me to stay at Uni.
“It also meant I had lots more time during the week to attend all the appointments and scans with my partner which is something I’m really glad I got to do because I really felt part of the whole process.
Morning sickness? More like constant sickness
Gaz said his partner suffered really badly with morning sickness which made him feel a bit useless and slightly responsible for her pain.
“That first trimester was a real challenge to get through and at the time it took some of the excitement out of being pregnant,” he said.
“The morning sickness was pretty unrelenting and my partner was either sick or nauseous for most of the first trimester.
“I think because we didn’t know any differently, we were quite worried that she might feel like this throughout the entire pregnancy.
“But once we reached the 12 week mark the sickness stopped completely, like a light switch turning off and we really started to enjoy the experience.”
Click here to read Gaz’s experiences during the 2nd trimester.
Click here to read Gaz’s experiences during the 3rd trimester.
Click here to read Gaz’s experiences as a new dad.
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